它是怎樣改變的。過去，你會認為別人所犯的錯都是故意的，你要別人為你的感覺負責，你對他們生氣。
你的洞察力應該會經過知識的過濾篩檢，你會思考，「這種狀況師父會怎樣處理呢？」這為你開拓了許多新的途徑。你理解別人及理解自己的方法已經改變了，不是嗎？假如你的洞察力已經改變，那你就是在進步當中
第二是觀察力（observation）。現在你能夠觀察自己內在所發生的事情— 愉快或是不愉快的感受。你的觀察能力已經進步了，你現在比較不會有反彈了。
那些不在這道上的人，不會去觀察自己內在發生的事。他們會把自己的挫敗連結在外在所發生的事件上。挫敗是什麼？它只是能量，行進在你身體特定管道的能量。假如你觀察這些感受，它就會轉變，然後離去。我們的靈修鍛鍊，所有我們做的事情，都在改善我們的觀察力
第三是表達力（expression）。如果你說別人不瞭解你，那是你沒有適當地表達自己。如果沒有人瞭解你，那是因為你沒有用他們能懂的語言說話。這就像你用著拉丁語或希臘語對著一群美國群眾說話ㄧ樣。毫無疑問地，你是愛，但是你必須把愛表達出來。表達愛並不是去當個偽善的好人。態度堅定、堅持立場也是愛。假如你不苟同某些事情，你就必須站穩立場，然後不表同意。但是你的堅定，必須來自於你的關心，而不是來自於憤怒或是挫折。
去看看這三件事如何在你生命中改變—洞察力（perception）、觀察力（observation）和表達力（expression）。這三件事應該改善了。當這些改善之後，你在這世間、在這群體的生活，會變得比較平順。我並不是說生活就變得永遠順順利利的，你還是會經歷不順遂，這是自然的，這將會發生，但是它將會比較平穩。你現在強壯多了。
（取自Michael Fischman 著《Stumbling Into Infinity》
<美修老師分享 學琴老師翻譯>
Q: I have so many experiences, but how do I know if it was real growth?
Sri Sri: There are three yardsticks you can use to measure improvement in your life. First is your perception. Just look at how it has changed. In the past, you would attribute intentions to others’ mistakes. You would hold other people responsible for your feelings and get angry with them.
Your perception should go through the filter of knowledge. You can think, “How the master have handled this?” It opens up new avenues for you. How you perceive people and how you perceive yourself has changed, hasn’t it? If your perception has changed, then you are making progress.
Second is observation. Now you are able to observe what is happening inside you- pleasant or unpleasant sensations. Your ability to observe has improved. You are less reactive now.
Someone who is not on the path doesn’t observe what is happening within them and will attach their frustration to events that are happening outside them. Frustration is what? It is only energy moving in a particular channel inside your body, and if you observe the sensations, it just shifts and moves away. Our sadhana (spiritual practice), all the things that we do, improves our observation.
Third is expression. If you say people do not understand you, then you have not expressing yourself properly. If no one understands you, then you have not been talking their language. It’s like you have been talking in Latin or Greek to an American crowd. You are love, no doubt, but you should express that love. Expressing love is not being goody-goody all the time. Being firm and tough is also love. If you don’t agree with something and you need to take a stand, then disagree. But your firmness should come from caring, not from anger or frustration.
Look and see how these three things have changed in your life. Perception, observation and expression. These three things should improve. As these things improve, life in this world, in society, becomes smoother. I won’t say it will be smooth all the time. You will go through rough times. It is natural, it will happen. But it will be smoother. You are stronger now.
