（取自古儒吉所著《Know your Mind》p.p.98-99）You Can’t Make Anybody Happy（二）
Try this-at home, your mother-in-law will complain, your husband will complain, anybody can complain about anything, let the world go topsy-turvy, but hold onto the idea-I am going to keep my energy high. You just take one such step and then see. Problems and challenges come so that you can turn your mind inwards. Instead of turning the mind inwards when problems come, what we do? We chase the problem and get completely drawn in that direction, and then our energy goes down and we collapse.
Many a times, in the name of compassion and sympathy you get drowned. Your compassion does not really help at all in solving the problem. It may sound very shocking but in compassion the problem multiplies, and doesn’t get solved.
Problems come so that a person can turn inwards and look inside, get into a state of dispassion and calmness. Instead you give reasons and try to pacify the person. Pacifying a person in a problem is the worst thing. You should not pacify them. Let everybody carry their own cross. Bear their Karma. If you are miserable or happy it is your Karma. So you change your Karma. This attitude makes a person more independent.
You show compassion and then they seek more attention. You feel more compassion and give them more attention and then neither compassion nor attention is possible. It breeds tension in you, “That poor person is so upset and I have to make him happy.” To make someone happy is a big burden. Don’t try to do that at all. This is a new policy- don’t try to make anybody happy, you can’t.
