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Question 1: Do we have common life goal?
Answer: Why is this important? Let me say this, if you have married for 20,30 years, that is already a very long time spent with someone. How would you plan to spend these time? Eat together, jog together? You have to share deeper and more meaningful things. You have to have common life-goal.
In a marriage, there could be 2 situations occur, you can develop(grow) together, or develop(grow) personally. There will be 50% of people develop personally, if you want a successful marriage, you would need to know, on the base line of your marriage, what do you want, then marry someone similar to you.

Question 2: Do I feel secure when I share my thoughts and ideas with this person?
Answer: This question links to the quality of your relationship. “Feeling secure” means that can you communicate honestly with this person? The foundation of good communication is trust, believes that you won’t get hurt or punished if you express your feeling or ideas.

Question 3: Is he/she worth to be respected and is a special person?
Answer: This question means that whether or not he/she is a royal sensitive person. How would you test him/her? Here are some suggestions. “Would he/she use the basic foundation to be his/her personal development? Would he/she seriously change himself/herself?”
One of my teacher set up a principle for a “good person”, that is, someone would strive to work hard for something that is right. So ask your other half, how does he/she uses his/her time? Is he/she a materialistic person? Usually a person who is materialistic would not place improving personal quality as the first priority.
Fundamentally, there are two types of people in the world, first one is someone who works hard towards personal development(growth). The second one are the people who would place personal enjoyment first. Thus, before you are stepping on to the red carpet, you need to consider this.