蘇菲雅老鼠窩 有一天， 我會留下這樣的話： 我不完美，從不超越極限，向來半途而廢，但是，親愛的上帝，我走完人生了。

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hello, you probably don’t remember me. This is your college classmate, Shao-Tsang. (sorry I can’t type Chinese) I saw your blog at Chia-yi’s website. At first I was just browsing through some pictures and admiring how you still have that college look. Then I ended up reading your compelling love story with Carl. It’s quite heart-breaking, to say the least. In New York, where I lived for 12 years, me and my girlfriends have dated noncommittal guys like Carl. We consider them bad news. Sometimes we call them ”cancer” because they made you fall for them and then slowly eat your brain cells away with their stupid distancing signals. ”I will call you right back” meant a phone call 3 days later or longer, or call to cancel your date at the last moment. At some point, you just have to wake up and accept the fact that ”he is just not that into you”. (this self-help book has turned into a movie”. http://www.books.com.tw/exep/prod/booksfile.php?item=F011419043
Maybe this book can help you find closure and some understanding to why Carl behaves the way he does. My first relationship was like yours and it lasted for 6 long years before I decided enough is enough. It was heartbreaking but a healthy choice. My husband was noncomittal in the first 3 months when we were dating. Every time when he didn’t make the call when he said he would or flirting with other girls, I just simply said ”it was nice hanging out with you but I don’t want to see you anymore.” i gave my reasons why these behavriors are inexcusable for me and he realized I meant it. Sometimes he would say if it weren’t for me to dump his stupid ass so many times, he wouldn’t learn to have a real relationship. So I believe there is someone out there for you. Don’t give up love. You certainly deserve it being this loving caring smat woman as you are.

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hope it helps. :) I am a self-help book junkie. When I am hurting, I would just curl up with this sort of books, such as ”your lover is a liar”, ”love smart”, ”a party for one”. Ha, it’s like therapy on the cheap, certainly got me through rough times.

P.S. you know I meant ”smart” right? gosh, I hate typos especially when I am trying to compliment someone.