T-16.I.1. To empathize does not mean to join in suffering, for that is what you must refuse to understand. 2 That is the ego's interpretation of empathy, and is always used to form a special relationship in which the suffering is shared. 3 The capacity to empathize is very useful to the Holy Spirit, provided you let Him use it in His way. 4 His way is very different. 5 He does not understand suffering, and would have you teach it is not understandable. 6 When He relates through you, He does not relate through your ego to another ego. 7 He does not join in pain, understanding that healing pain is not accomplished by delusional attempts to enter into it, and lighten it by sharing the delusion.
T-16.I.2. The clearest proof that empathy as the ego uses it is destructive lies in the fact that it is applied only to certain types of problems and in certain people. 2 These it selects out, and joins with. 3 And it never joins except to strengthen itself. 4 Having identified with what it thinks it understands, the ego sees itself and would increase itself by sharing what is like itself. 5 Make no mistake about this maneuver; the ego always empathizes to weaken, and to weaken is always to attack. 6 You do not know what empathizing means. 7 Yet of this you may be sure; if you will merely sit quietly by and let the Holy Spirit relate through you, you will empathize with strength, and will gain in strength and not in weakness.
1. 最清楚的證明, 人格我要施展同情心時, 有個破壞性的事實, 同情心只適用在某些問題, 某些人
2. 同情心選出這些人這些事, 然後加入
3. 除非能加強苦難受害感, 否則同情心不會加入
4. 認出這個自以為的同情, 人格我看出它, 也借由分享更增加同情的感覺
5. 不要搞錯這個機制; 人格我永遠因同情而變弱, 變弱永遠會變成攻擊
6. 你不知道什麼是同情
7. 你可確定的就是(6), 如果你稍事安靜, 讓聖靈流經你; 你可因慈悲而更有力量, 會獲得力量, 而非變弱
T-16.I.3. Your part is only to remember this; you do not want anything you value to come of a relationship. 2 You choose neither to hurt it nor to heal it in your own way. 3 You do not know what healing is. 4 All you have learned of empathy is from the past. 5 And there is nothing from the past that you would share, for there is nothing from the past that you would keep. 6 Do not use empathy to make the past real, and so perpetuate it. 7 Step gently aside, and let healing be done for you. 8 Keep but one thought in mind and do not lose sight of it, however tempted you may be to judge any situation, and to determine your response by judging it. 9 Focus your mind only on this:
10 I am not alone, and I would not intrude the past upon my Guest.
11 I have invited Him, and He is here.
12 I need do nothing except not to interfere.
你的工作只要記好這件事,; 你不希望任何你珍視的事以關係的形式來到
2. 你不是傷害它就是治好它, 以你的方式
3. 你並不知道什麼是療癒
4. 所有你所知道的同情, 都是從過去學習而來的
5. 過去的事沒有絲毫可以用來分享, 因為沒有過去的事是你想保有的
6. 不要用同情心讓過去又活過來, 不用讓它延續
7. 輕輕把它放到一旁, 讓療癒為你工作
8. 只放一個想法在心上, 不要忽略它; 不管你多想批評一個狀況
9. 專注在以下的事:
10. 我不是單獨一個人, 我不會打擾過去
11. 我已邀請聖靈, 聖靈已在此
12. 我唯一要做的事, 就是不去干預它
~ Chapter 16, True Empathy ~ A Course in Miracles
