不曉得為什麼有個青梅竹馬,現在在美國一直想留言給我,一直留不成...還好,他說他這次變聰明了...他把文字保存在他自己的電腦裏了...他在MSN上給了我...我把他轉貼上來吧!我想...晚一點會再寫一篇文章來回應....
Dear Yu-Ming,
If you can not stand up to him, or fear that may cause you to be physically abused again. It is OK to choose walk away.
He sounds like a very selfish person. To him, you are just like a toy in his collection box. He will not lay eyes on you twice if he doesn’t need to. He only wants you to be there when he wants to play with you. He doesn’t allow anyone to betray him until he thinks you are worthless or not interested to him anymore. He will just throw you into garbage without any hard feeling.
Maybe, deep in your mind, still hoping he will change one day, but you know it will never happen. Yet, you still eager for his love and somehow you make yourself depending on him. It is really not healthy. Please don’t put yourself in such a worse and controversial situation. Don’t try to make everybody happy and satisfied if you cannot make yourself happy. Don’t be a candle burning both sides.
I know your son is another major reason for you stay. Have you read an article on the Internet talking about a professor asks a student to list out all the important people in her life and cross them out one by one? Parents will pass away. Your son will have to leave you and fly away when he grows up. The only person will stay and holding your hand until your hairs turn grey is your deeply loved one (or the person truely loves you). Do you think he will be the one? You know he is NOT.
Do you really want to bet another 20 years of your golden ages in this relationship? What if you hold on another 20 years and he decides to throw you away at that time. Your parents may not be there to give you supports, and your son will not likely to stay with you. What can you do by then?
You are not that old yet, it is him to make your heart dying and breaking away. Your golden age in your life is about to start, please live for yourself.
I wish I can type in Chinese, or wish my English is better.
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