The recent news about a female salesperson exploited several of her male clients through seduction and pretensions of sentiment has led me to reflect on a theory I have long put aside.. The thesis of the theory contends that there is always the possibility for one to fall in love with someone else other than his or her current lover, and the possibility also applies to the other side; that his or her current lover could have loved someone else other than that person. Profound implication
I am not sure if many lovers have thought about the reason why the other person loves him or her. I think the question: 巣hy does my lover love me??is a very important question to ponder for everyone who has been or will be involved in a relationship. The question is admittingly irrelevant for those of us who are currently in love and enjoy in being so. This sense of irrelevancy is perfectly understandable, since we humans seem to have the tendency of not questioning any further for reasons of actions and causes of events, after we are being put into a position that we enjoy; once our desire is substantially satisfied, the question of 聴hy?becomes plainly extraneous. But the same question that is clearly irrelevant to some may be appreciated by others who have yet to have the chance of falling in love, or whose love relationship has been terminated for some unexpected reasons. Appreciation is basd
Now, here is a hypothetical case to tackle: John has a girlfriend, Jessie, to whom he holds dearly. One day, John had a passing thought as to why Jessie loves him. John raised the question and Jessie responded. Suppose there are no special motives or real doubts on the part of John旧 inquiry, and suppose Jessie does love John as much as he loves her. Consider the following case:
John: 巣hy do you love me, Jess??
Jessie: 戦 don急 know. I just love you, silly.?
Jessie旧 disclaimer of knowledge in the case above is arguably an irresponsible answer, since the answer: 戦 don急 know, I just__?can be used as a response to every single question that inquires the reason for a person旧 particular affection for __; the blank inside the quotation can be every single event, person, or object. Even though it seems possible for Jessie to love John without knowing why she does, it does not make sense for Jessie to be completely clueless and happens to fall in love with John for no particular reason. Jessie旧 disclaimer of knowledge, however, does not necessarily diminish the value of her love nor its authenticity. Chances are, the disclaimer was made, not because Jessie does not know why she loves John, but because Jessie does not know how to articulate the reasons or her feelings for him. This leads us to the second case:
John: 巣hy do you love me, Jess??
Jessie: 戦 feel for you.?Or 戦 have special feelings about you.?
This response is more assuring than the first one, but still, not particularly promising. The affirmation: 戦 feel for you?is very vague, and it can be taken as just another way of saying: 戦 love you.?which does not answer the question. It can be argued, that Jessie旧 affirmation of 戦 feel for you?is a genuine affirmation of her mental states, as the main reason for her to love him. And since an individual旧 mental states are consist of intricate phenomenon difficult to be described in certain and definite terms, Jessie旧 inability to detail out her feelings toward John is understandable. It can even be argued that not only are an individual旧 feelings are hard to describe, but also they are hard to be clearly and fully 沢nown?or made aware of by the individual himself. This argument also further strengthens the rationality for the disclaimer of knowledge in the first case. Another reason for the declaimer, by the way, may be that there are too many reasons for Jessie to love John, but the multiplicity of reasons at best creates a difficulty, not an impossibility, for answering the question. This leads us to our third case:
John: 巣hy do you love me, Jess??
Jessie: 斉ecause you are/have/have done/did something.?
In this case, something can be substituted with some particular talents or personality traits John has, or something John has achieved in the past or continue to be doing in the present.
(What if the invidual has the necessary vocabulary?)
John旧 girlfriend to really not to know why she loves John, she has made a big mistake in loving someone she does not know why does so.
or without knowing how to articulate the reasons,
Case 2: Counter-question: 巣ell, why do you love me??
Case 3: Reciprocal causes: 斉ecause you love me.?
Case 4: Statements of qualities: 斉ecause you are/have/have done/did?
Case 5: Begging the question: 斉ecause I love you.?
Case 6: The girl said nothing but gave John an affectionate (presumably) as a way to demonstrate her indubitable love and fidelity.
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how does john really knows jess loves him? He does not he cannnot
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