我在信箱裡大開殺戒，發現這幾封跟同學的『談情說愛』，真的是談情說愛，兩隻經驗不太豐富的小猴子的對話，只是一些想法，典型的看法很多，做法卻不多，不過這些想法，現在看來還是覺得很有趣。存檔！
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寄件者: RANDY
收件者: Eros
主旨: Alain de Botton
Hi:
have you ever read his book ??
I'm now reading his first novel "on love" (中譯: 我談的那場戀愛)
quite interesting !!
Best Regards
Randy
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To: RANDY
Subject: 回覆 : Alain de Botton
沒有ㄋㄟ
這樣下次借我吧
關於你的春天
昨天和一個女生聊天
聊我之前的困境
她的講法好激進…
至少她覺得像我們這麼隨緣的態度
不夠積極的作為
是無法擄獲美人心的
她一直說
這是過來人
而且是女生的經驗
我一定要聽
你？就聽聽看要不要改變吧
所謂真正的愛情也要能經得起現實的考驗
原來我的烏托邦一直都只是烏托邦而已
唉…我不喜歡她的說法
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寄件者: RANDY
收件者: Eros
主旨: Re: 回覆 : Alain de Botton
If love can easily be categorized into two groups:
one is strong and intense kind of love which may cripple you
one is the gentle and easy one which makes you feel free
which one will you prefer ?
here is two lines I read last night which is very interesting (in the book "on love")about the uncomfortable "silence" between two people
"A silence with an unattractive person implies they are the boring one"
"A silence with an attractive one leaves you certain it is YOU who are impossibly dull."
if I love someone in the "easy" way,does this means that I don't even "love" someone at all ??
because this kind of "love" haven't "crippled" me ???
Best Regards
Randy
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To: RANDY
Subject: 回覆 : 回覆 : Alain de Botton
I don't want to cripple myself or anybody.
Love shouldn't be like that.
We all agree with that.
It's a free and comfortable moment every time with her.
This is one important reason in our love.
You love someone in the "easy" way, don't mean that you don't even "love" someone at all.
You may love her more than anyone.
What I am thinking is we all have strong confidence.
But we may listen to others very careful.
Don't lose ourselves, but I may try others' advice to see what will happen.
I am sure I am right, but I don't want stand still all the time.....
Does it conflict?
We may all grow up through right things or wrongs.
I want to do wrongs sometimes......
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寄件者: Randy
收件者: Eros
主旨: which side do you prefer ???
An paragraph adapted from the book "on love" which is so interesting
The philosopher Pascal had talked of a choice facing every Christian in a world unevenly divided between the horror of a universe without God and the
> > blissful - but infinitely more remote - alternative that God did exist. Even though the odds were in favor of God's not existing, Pascal argued that our faith in God could still be amply justified because the joys of the slimmer probability so far outweighed the horrors of the larger probability. And so it should perhaps be with love. Lovers cannot remain philosophers for long; they should give way to the religious impulse, which is to believe and have faith, as opposed to the philosophic impulse, which is to doubt and inquire. they should prefer the risk of being wrong and in love to being in doubt and without love.
but sometimes inevitablly love will make you blind love will keep you "possessed" by your wildest dreams love makes you lose yourself and you must know all the syndromes better than I do
I can't clearly describe these ideas when I'm not in love (which is now) let along to analyze my own behavior and thoughts if I fortunately enough to fall in love
Best Regards
Randy
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----- Original Message -----
From: Eros
To: Randy
Subject: 回覆 : which side do you prefer ???
Life in your way.
This is important.
其實我開始有點不知從何說起了
愛很絕對
有或沒有
可是有時候又有很多灰色地帶
自己的生活方式亦然
怎麼說我可以娶一個人之後而仍然是我自己呢
怎麼說我可以談了戀愛而沒有一些牽絆.一些不理智呢
人如果夠理智
其實是不需要談感情
我喜歡risk這個字.很愛情
清醒和難得糊塗之間
I mean.. the point is you are not always being wrong.
Being wrong is kind of art...
sometimes
You feel you can control the wrongs but you wrong...
但我還是不想做一個乖小孩
人可不可以不要在天使和惡魔之間選擇一邊
我覺得這是一個陷阱...
你呢？冷靜的你
Eros
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